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Ms. Crabbypantscontrolfreak

My name is Sheavaun and I’m a recovering codependent. Or rather, a recovering Ms. Crabbypantscontrolfreak.

I’m discovering all sorts of new things as I look through this new lens.

Take for instance that it is not uncommon for a codependent to become addicted to something as well as be attached to someone else who has an addictive personality. Drumroll please.

cakeYes, that is right. I am a food addict. For close to 10 years I have been fighting my weight thinking that the solution or cure for my then 20, now close to 40 pounds of extra weight I lug around is just around the corner. When in fact the thing-behind-the-thing in my case is that I have made food into my comfort. And allowed it to control me. I had an inkling of this truth, but the clarity in which I now view this astounding revelation is sharp and cuts to the quick.

The 12 steps I received from my counselor and which are taught in my al-anon group are now not only vital for my ability to survive and thrive in my relationship(s), but also in my very personal life as a now confessed food-addict.

(1) I admit I am powerless over my husband, as well as food. My life has become unmanageable.

(2) I wholeheartedly believe that God is so much more powerful than I and has restored me to sanity and wholeness.

(3) In bed last night as the picture of my condition sharpened in clarity I made a decision to turn my will and life in this regard over to God. I had done this for many other instances after giving Him my trust and heart as a young girl, but this is new information for me, and I give it over willingly. I can’t do this on my own. I have allowed something else to master me and ruin so much of my joy and sap my strength for too long. I don’t want that any more.

I’m not sure what it is about this particular revelation that makes such a difference in how I function right now. In the past I have been able to manage a handful of diets that resulted in a wee bit of weight loss that got packed back on sooner than later because I went straight back to eating too much. I was aware of this.

I was aware that I shouldn’t give in to food, yet continued to do so.

I was aware that it meant more to me than it should.

burgerI was aware that skinny girls didn’t eat as much as I do. They weren’t chained. Weren’t obsessed with it.

They could say no.

I couldn’t.

So what’s so different now?

Is it the mere power of words?

No.

There’s more to it, and I realize that it is in this one more thing that I must relinquish my stranglehold on what I think I can control, or… what I can’t.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

I am more than a conqueror through Him.

I am new.

I recognize that I am powerless over food, but I believe that God is greater and can restore me.

I turn my will over to Him, ready and willing for Him to remove this from me.

I’m ready to be free!

Bring it on.

Do You Have to Be Young To Be Beautiful?

beauty2There’s a bombardment from, well, everywhere, of anti-aging do’s & don’t & must-haves and I for one have been guilty of falling into the trap they inevitably pound us into: that our youth is the most important and the most beautiful stage of our lives, so we’d better do what we can to either keep up the facade that we still have it, or try to get it back. Not only is that an immense amount of pressure, but it can be expensive! We see actresses that we’ve watched over the years hit some magic number where they decide it’s time to mess with nature and have a ‘procedure’. And we can tell!

We ooohh and aaahh at babies and toddlers, exclaiming at how adorable they are, knowing full well they will grow into another stage of cuteness, and another after that. We don’t put a stop sign on children’s aging, so why do we put one on ourselves as adults? There is beauty in every stage of life. Just as the nurture and care of children changes as they grow, so must our nurture and care for ourselves continue to grow, and yes, continue to be embraced.

63 modelBeauty is far more than just a set of numbers, like the size of our jeans, how many miles we can run, or our age. It goes beyond the surface like our skin or the color of our hair, or the absence of cottage cheese on our thighs. It is seen in the quality of our smile, the wisdom in our choices, the care we take of what we’ve been blessed with. Beauty is mysterious, it quickens our senses, it captivates us. It is deep and abiding, and it is a gift.

So, rather than focusing on desperately trying to hold onto a stage that is ready to move on, let’s celebrate the stage we are in now. Let’s appreciate and nurture our bodies and our souls as they are, treating them to health and life, wholesome food and products , proud of how far we’ve come, and confident that we are becoming all we are meant to be.

Be happy. Be healthy. Be beautiful. Be you. Absolutely.

Written with love,

Sheavaun

Dream and Fight For It!

Dream and Fight For It!We can overcome the junk that has weighed us down in the past and go after the dreams that have been fighting to be acknowledged from the recesses of our heart. Sometimes we just need to keep our focus, other times we may need to tweak our plan, but almost all the time we need to continue on the path and trust that it is all going to come together because we can see it. We can taste it. We can feel it.

It takes more than just motivation and drive though. It takes planning, it takes skill, and it takes a whole lot of gumption. Know this: whatever it is you feel you are called to, be it in a lay-capacity, volunteer, or full-time ministry or business, you will become a much more rounded and fully alive person as you slug it out. Don’t give up! It may be painful as you stretch and learn, but it will be so worth it when you get closer.

I have a dear friend who has had a dream for as long as I have known her to have her own bridal shop, designing and creating custom gowns for the bride-to-be. That dream has finally come to fruition, but she has made sacrifices, mistakes, and learned plenty about herself along the way. She is a strong, capable, illustrious, hard-working woman who believed in her dreams and her gifts, and has honed her talents as she forged ahead. Get this: she contacted me the other day because she is still dreaming and planning on how to make her business unique and about the “whole woman” who comes into her shop, so among other things, she believes that offering  Arbonne skincare in her shop is a perfect fit. Music to my ears! Giving out samples and encouraging her brides to take care of themselves in another way, to feel beautiful and healthy… what a marvelous idea!

(You can find Shannon on FB here: https://www.facebook.com/vuedesign or her website here: http://home.vuedesign.net/about/ )

Be creative. Be focused. But above all, just BE YOU. We need you.

With love,

Sheavaun

p.s.  Come say hello on Facebook!

Be-You-tiful Skin

skincarepicWe All Want Beautiful Skin,

            No Matter What Our Age.

“Ok,” you say, “so how do I know what to use?” Good question. The fact is we need to be just as careful in what we put onto our skin as we do what we put into our mouths. We know that the skin is a very active organ that responds to many different factors, including harmful ingredients.

The key is to look at the ingredients list on your beauty products just like you do your food. Be aware that what you’re putting on your skin can affect your health as well as your looks. Using beneficial oils like unrefined extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil with shea butter are good natural choices for moisturizing, though I’m not a huge fan of how ‘slippery’ I feel when using them.

If you haven’t been looking at the ingredients list on your beauty products as keenly as you do your cereal boxes, I strongly encourage you to do so. Taking care of our skin is just as important as taking care of what we put into our bodies.

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Finding a company that prides itself on not using harmful ingredients or testing on animals is important. Arbonne skin care products fit into this category because they are:

  • Botanically based
  • Vegan certified
  • Never tested on animals
  • Formulated without animal products or animal by-products
  • Formulated without mineral oil
  • Formulated without dyes
  • Dermatologist tested
  • Allergy tested
  • Clinically tested
  • pH correct
  • USFDA compliant
  • Health Canada compliant
  • European Parliament and Council Regulation compliant
  • Australia NICNAS and TGA compliant

To learn more about Arbonne and their absolutely sumptuous products, just click here.

I’d love to talk with you, so please fill out the contact form below so I can get back to you right away. And don’t forget to hop over to my Facebook  page and leave me a message there too if you’d like. Can’t wait!

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Be happy, be healthy, be beautiful, be you. Absolutely.

Sheavaun

 

 

 

Motor Oil in My Toothpaste?

Pure_web arbonne logoMost of us are fairly conscious of what kind of food we eat, and are aware of how certain kinds affect us beyond just weight gain. Yet how much thought do we put into what goes on our largest organ: our skin?

Did you know that most cosmetics, shampoo, body lotion, laundry detergents & softeners, furniture polish, pesticides, toothpaste, fertilizers, city water, plastic containers and even some foods contain deadly ingredients? Think I’m a nut-job trying to stir the pot? According to a Cancer Prevention Coalition Press Release on June 17, 2002: Cancer and health risk experts just concluded reviews that indicate mainstream cosmetics and personal hygiene products pose the highest cancer risk exposures to the general public, higher than smoking.” Say what? In a 1989 government hearing, a House sub-committee called for the analysis of nearly 3,000 chemicals used in cosmetics after cosmetologists complained of headaches, loss of balance, memory loss, asthma, nervous system damage and respiratory damage. What’d they find? (Ugh!) After the National Institute of Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH) studied 2,983 ingredients, they found 884 to be toxic. Of the 884:

  •  314 could cause biological mutation
  •  218 could cause reproductive problems
  •  778 could cause acute toxicity
  •  cancer tumors by 146
  •  skin & eye irritation by 376 (Debra Lynn Dadd, Home Safe Home, p 167-168)

So what’s the problem? Most products are made from petrochemical derivatives of nonrenewable crude oil, and it’s what these petrochemicals do to the nervous system and hormones that is the problem.

“Neurotoxins are so called because they are toxic to your nervous system. The core of your nervous system is your brain, which not only affects thinking and feeling but regulates every system in your body. When your nervous system is damaged, your entire body can be affected,” said Debra Lynn Dadd an internationally-recognized consumer advocate specializing in identifying products that are safe and environmentally responsible.

Feel older than you are? Are you experiencing any of these side-effects? — fatigue, skin irritation, personality changes, vision damage, destruction of the immune system, memory loss, headaches, sexual dysfunction, hormone problems, sleep disturbances, disease, nausea, vomiting, muscle dysfunction, aches and pains.

Here’s the thing: some of the toxins derived from petrochemicals can act as mutagens when found in sufficient amounts, meaning they can change the genetic coding in cells. Other ingredients may not be harmful all by themselves, but when combined with other ingredients we take in, they can be dangerous. Many come of these neurotoxins come from the same petrochemicals that cause cancer. Sound like I’m just trying to scare you?

Well, we know that many medications are applied to the skin to ensure they get working quickly, rather than just being injected. It takes approximately 26 seconds after exposure to chemicals for them to be found in every organ of the body. Too bad that we haven’t been given the heads-up about the stuff we slather on every single day… Many lotions and cosmetics have a mineral-oil base, which, of course, is a petrochemical. Mineral oil molecules are too large to penetrate the water after a spill in the ocean so they stay on the surface, creating a barrier. Same thing on human skin. Mineral oil blocks all nutrients that might be in a product, and offers no nutritional value in return. Actually, it draws nutrients away. There is no such thing as a good mineral oil, either. The human body simply does not know what to do with it.

Here’s another disgusting tidbit for you: dead animals that need to be disposed of are sent to a rendering plant. Bones, blood, hoofs, horns, heads, intestines are all dumped into huge grinders, mixed together and steam-cooked. Mmmmm… Then the fatty substance that floats to the top is scraped off and used to make lipstick and other cosmetics, lubricants, waxes and soaps.

So why is this stuff available for public consumption? Because the FDA isn’t required to test cosmetics for safety before being sold. They can only remove a product form the market after they’ve had enough complaints and then evidence to warrant it’s removal. Many cosmetics have drug-like effects, yet go unregulated and untested. Until the day the FDA moves fast enough to protect us from these neurotoxins, we as the consumer must fend for ourselves. Get educated! Know what the harmful ingredients are, and look for them on ingredient labels. More importantly, find a company you can trust who only uses safe ingredients. A reliable company can save you hours of checking and even studying, because you can buy from it without worrying about what it uses in it’s products.

You want a company that chooses to go beyond FDA regulations. Choose a company with a philosophy of health, based on all-natural, botanical principles. That won’t use mineral oils, petroleum-derived products, paraffin wax, soluble alcohol, lanolin, phthalates, collagen and elastin of high-molecular weight or animal products.

I personally use and recommend Arbonne products. If you would like to learn more bout this company who has been around for over 30 years, and whose motto has been “pure, safe, and beneficial” for all that time, then stay tuned as I continue to share about it’s products with you.

Feel free to check out my Arbonne website: www.awonderfulyou.myarbonne.com and let me know if I can help you make some decisions.

With love,

Sheavaun

 

 

 

The Arbonne Difference

 PREMIUM SKIN CARE PRODUCTS    FORMULATED IN SWITZERLAND – MADE IN THE USA

Arbonne premium skin care products are formulated in Switzerland at the Arbonne Institute of Research and Development (AIRD) and made in the U.S.A.

 

Pure, Safe, Beneficial.
Pure, Safe, Beneficial.

Our proprietary formulas are:

• Botanically-based: A proprietary blending of science and nature based on herbal and botanical principles.

• pH correct: Skin care pH of 5.5 insures maximum benefit.

• Hypoallergenic: Voluntary human testing meets Hypoallergenic substantiation claim criteria.

• Dermatologist tested: Voluntary human tests done under the watchful eye of an independent Dermatologist.

• Never tested on animals: Voluntary substantiation and safety testing is performed at independent laboratories on human panels.

• Formulated without animal products or by-products: Plants and herbs together with science and technology offer superior benefits.

• Formulated without mineral oil: Occlusive oil that can interfere with skin functions as well as advanced delivery systems.

• Formulated without dyes or chemical fragrances: Dyes and Fragrances are known irritants and can cause allergic reactions.

Scientifically Advanced Nutrition Products
Based on similar principles that propelled the success of our skin care products, Arbonne expanded into total body care with Arbonne Bio-Nutria®. Developed for every stage of life, these nutrition, weight management,
fitness, life enhancement and remedy products are convenient, safe and backed by the latest scientific research.

These Products Contain:

• The finest pharmaceutical grade ingredients
• Standardized botanicals and herbs
• Proprietary herbal blends that work synergistically
with active components for optimal results

All of Arbonne’s dietary supplements are formulated:
• To meet U.S. Pharmacopeia (USP) disintegration time
standards (30 minutes)
• Without colors, starch, yeast, caffeine, preservatives or salt
• To provide maximum absorption with highly bio-available ingredients

The Arbonne Product Guarantee
We are so confident that you will love our products. Clients may return
products within 45 days from the date, for any reason.

Click here to shop online for Arbonne products.

Beauty From Within

beauty2If beauty is really just skin-deep, then why are we drawn to those people who don’t necessarily fit the Hollywood/model molds? Those people who have such a warm smile. Who are gentle. Don’t seem to be looking down on us when we talk or share something important. Those people who seem to have a knack for making us feel important.

I’m convinced that there is so much more to beauty than meets the eye. I had coffee today with a girlfriend who is very pretty, and when I first met her a couple of years ago she seemed very fearful of what others thought of her and whether or not she really had worth. I have had the privilege of watching her bloom as she has begun to let God in to the secret places within her heart. I cried tears of joy today as I listened to her tell me that even though she doesn’t know exactly what God will do, or how, or when, she does know He loves her, and is up to something good.

I watched my dear friend as she shared her heart with me, and I was overcome with her beauty. Her confidence in Her King and Friend has transformed her smile, her eyes, her speech…

Beauty goes so much deeper than the skin. Rather, it springs from an Eternal Well.

Thank you, Living Water, for bestowing us each with beauty. Help us to discover it, so it may blossom for the benefit of others.